EVERY WOMAN AS MOTHER
His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada
From five years old, if a child is trained to call all women as mother, then naturally his culture is different. … This was the practice. Not only religiously, but morally. It is so good, to look upon all women as mother. That is the system still in India, any unknown woman who has no introduction with you, she is addressed with “mātājī”. She may be just like a daughter or a granddaughter, but still, as a respect to the woman, one would address her as mother,“mātājī”. This is the Indian system. Now some rascals have introduced “bhaginījī”, “sister”. But that is not śāstric. In the śāstra, all women except one’s wife should be addressed as mother.
(Lecture in Los Angeles. 7 January 1974)
Any woman except one’s wife is mother. It doesn’t matter whether she is elderly or young. Still in India, one can address any unknown woman with “mother”. The first relationship is mother. Now they have introduced “sister”,“bahinjī”. No, that is not Vedic etiquette. No“bahinjī”. We should learn this. Except for one’s one wife, all women should be addressed as “mother”. This is civilization. Then there will be no corrupt relations. If from the very beginning, you establish your relationship with other women as mother, then there is no question of another relationship.
(Lecture in Los Angeles. 13 July 1974)
One of the qalifications one must have tobe considered a learned scholar is māt_vatpara-dāre_u — all women should be treated as mother. Nowadays it has been introduced in India, “bahinjī”. No. This is not the etiquette. The etiquette is to address every woman, never mind whether she is young or old, as mother. This is brahmacārī.
(Lecture in Bombay. 5 April 1974)
All women should be treated just like mother. Not like the present society. Formerly, every woman was addressed as mother,“mātājī”. And now they have invented“bahinjī”. No. Woman should be addressed as mother. Māt_vat para-dāre_u.
(Lecture in Vrindavan. 6 August 1974)
At the present moment, they have inventedthe word “bahinjī”, “sister”. No. In the Vedic culture there is no such thing as “sister”.“Mother” — that is Vedic culture. Any womanis called “mother”, because mother is always respected. The brahmacārī would go to the householder’s house and address the ladies, “Mother, give us some alms.” So from the childhood, a brahmacārī is trained to address all women as mother. Therefore, when they are young they cannot see women in anyother way. This is Vedic culture.
(Lecture in Mayapura. 4 October 1974)
Māt_vat para-dāre_u — one should see all women as mother. But in this age, there is no education. Therefore, practically everyone isa mū
ha, not educated. He does not know how to look upon women. Woman should be looked upon as mother. … In Northern India,they have introduced “bahinjī”. No, this is not the etiquette. One should say, “mātājī”. This is Indian culture, not “bahinjī”.
(Lecture in Mayapura. 16 February 1976)
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